Dating

Online Dating: Disappointment No 15

I went on an online date yesterday. Now, I don’t want to sound like a Negative Nancy, but it was quite possibly the worst date I’ve ever been on. I felt embarrassed the whole time because he kept making jokes that were rather disgusting and saying things that were very, very leading.

Online Dating Disappointment:

He told me that if I was his teacher at high school he would have had a crack at me. For real? I mean, who says that? That is so wrong! He then asked if I had had any affairs with teacher’s when I was a student at high school. Um, no.

And to make it worse, he kept flexing his muscles and wriggling his eyebrows and winking at me. He kept making comments about the things we would get up to.

A while was spent telling me how I should undercook chicken, because it isn’t actually that bad to undercook it. He also spent the majority of the time telling me all about how amazing he was and how he travels a lot. I guess he was really trying to sell himself to me, but it didn’t work.

As we left, he kissed me on the cheek, I leant as far away as possible, but his lips followed me.  I’ve never scrubbed my check so much in my life, trying to get rid of any traces of him.  I know that sounds really mean and petty, but I was seriously grossed out!

How many dates must I go on to find ‘the one’. Does ‘the one’ even exist? Or is it a myth?

This particular man spent a bit of time telling me how he had been on a lot of dates but all of them didn’t turn out well. I can kind of see why!

Talking to a lot of my friends who are single and dating, they are having the same problems. Every time they go on a date (online, tinder etc), it is a disappointment.  It seems like we all expect great things, only to find that we are disappointed when we actually meet.

I’ve been on so many dates that I kind of just feel like giving up. But I won’t. I am going to keep persevering with this until I find a man I actually am attracted to.

It’s funny because sometimes I talk to people afterwards and they tell me that I should just keep going out with these men, even though there is no attraction there.  I just don’t want to lead them on…and I think that if there is no sexual attraction when I meet someone for the first, second or third time, then there will likely be none ever. I would rather that I find a man attractive, because imagine spending the rest of your life with someone you don’t find attractive.

I’m sick of online dating.

I look through so many profiles online of these guys and they all seem ok, and then I meet them and they are not what they seem. And just how safe is online dating anyway?

Sometimes, when I don’t actually recognise them because their photos look completely different to them in real life. I’m sure this happens to men as well: they meet a woman on online dating, and the person who turns up is completely different to what their profile suggests.

It really makes me realise how easy it is for people to lie about who they are and also keep aspects of their personality hidden.

The only reason I keep persevering with online dating is because my sister met her husband online – so if she can find someone, surely I can!

And another reason, that I just thought of is:

I work in a job where there are no males – and if there is a male, they are either married, gay or old.

I’m sure this is not just an issue from this generation, and I’m sure women in previous decades and generations had difficulty finding a prospective partner.

What are your thoughts on online dating?

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4 Comments

  1. Bethlwebb

    05/10/2017 at 8:47 AM

    Oh wow. This guy sounds like the ultimate creep. Definitely should’ve gone to the loo and never come back haha!

    1. kattie

      05/10/2017 at 9:02 AM

      He definitely was. I can’t forget how he kept following my check with his lips when he said goodbye – I leant as far away as possible, but he still managed to get me 🙁

  2. Lena

    16/10/2017 at 7:04 AM

    Ew that man sounds revolting. I so understand how you feel, I never meet men offline – literally every date I’ve been on in years, I met online. All my friends are women pretty much, so I have to turn to the internet. Other people’s dating advice sucks especially if they’ve been in relationships for a while.

    1. kattie

      17/10/2017 at 1:37 AM

      I’m glad someone else is having the same problem! Like you, all my friends are women, so I have to go online 🙁 My job doesn’t help much – there’s one male in the primary school I work at. Yeah, so many of my friends in relationships say ‘you could grow to like him’.

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