About four years ago, I cut my hair off. And I don’t mean just a slight trim. I went full on pixie. I had this hair cut for about 4 years, until I just suddenly to grow it out last December.
Cutting my hair was so liberating. For years I had been looking at pixie cuts like Audrey Hepburn and Jean Seberg, but I was always talked out of getting one.
When I got my hair cut short, I had all these people telling me that I looked great and I could really pull this look off. I received plenty of compliments of ‘you look like Audrey Hepburn’ (which I will definitely take with a very happy smile, because Audrey was a fantastic person who worked very hard for UNICEF and was generally a great person). However, I got the more honest comments from my students: “are you a boy or a girl?” or “only boys have short hair”.
I ended up keeping my hair short for years. Despite the comments from relatives: “men don’t like women with short hair”. I beg to differ, I managed to attract plenty of men with my short hair.
This brings me to two questions:
Why is hair associated with a women’s femininity?
Why is it such a problem for women to have short hair?
I decided to have a look at some articles, from a man’s perspective, on short hair. And what a mistake that was. I really reminded me how there are still so many preconceived ideas about femininity.
According to Tuthmosis,
“a girl who has gone through with a short cut—and is pleased with the changes in her reception—is damaged in some significant way. Short hair is a near-guarantee that a girl will be more abrasive, more masculine, and more deranged”.
Reading the comments on there is just depressing, because so many commenters just sexualise women and also are so incredibly disgusting to females.
It was actually kind of depressing reading the comments because it appears that there are so many men out there who still view women as the weaker sex.
Now, my favourite quote from this article is:
“Not only is short-hair unattractive, it’s one of the biggest signals a man can get that a woman is damaged beyond repair”.
I think what has happened is that men have been told since childhood that long hair is for girls. I mean, fairy tale princesses have long hair, the majority of women and female celebrities have long hair, so that must be the norm, right?
Now, I said earlier how I never had any issue attracting men with my short hair. I’d go back to a pixie at the drop of a hat…I’ve just worked so hard to grow my hair to bob length, that I don’t really want to cut all this hard work off.
So, to all those women out there who want to cut their hair off but are scared of the reactions they’ll get, just do it. Hair is amazing because it grows out and there are extensions that are readily available, although expensive. You can still be feminine with a pixie cut, and seriously, not all men hate the short hair.