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My thoughts on outgrowing friendships

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When I was younger, I never thought that I’d outgrow friendships along the pathway of life (how poetic do I sound?). I thought that my best friends from high school would continue to be my friends throughout uni and my working life. How wrong I was!

Thoughts On Outgrowing Friendships

I have only kept in contact with two of my high school friends.

outgrow friendshipsWe all outgrow friendships. My high school friends have all moved on. One recently got married. I wasn’t invited because it’s been something like 10 years that we last saw each other. Another one, who was my best friend, moved to Canada. I saw her once after finishing high school. My other friends have all got their own busy lives. We have all moved on from the drama that was high school.

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Being facebook friends doesn’t really mean that you are still friends. I have about 200 friends on there, most of whom I don’t even consider friends. There’s a grand total of ten people I am truly friends with, and although we don’t always catch up, it never feels like it’s been ages since we last saw each other. I always wonder what people would think if they were to read out chats.

“Friendship isn’t about who you’ve known the longest, it’s about who walked in to your life, said “I’m here for you,” and PROVED it.” 

— Unknown


Outgrowing friends can be sad, but I think that everyone has friends from different times in their lives.

But there can be a time when you just don’t get along with them anymore. When you want to stay friends, and you try your hardest to make your friendship work. That is when you know for certain that you’ve outgrown your friendship.


Have a read of my other life posts:

How I Developed my Self Confidence

Is it Bad to be an Introvert?


  1. Kasie

    19/02/2018 at 10:37 PM

    For a long time I found outgoing friendships heartbreaking. Eventually I realized it was a part of life and I cherish those friends I’ve had for years and years all the more.

    1. kattie

      22/02/2018 at 6:43 AM

      Yes, it can be heartbreaking, especially when you have been friends for such a long time. But you are right, it is part of life. Friends come and go!

  2. fehintolaogunye

    23/02/2018 at 7:21 PM

    When I was younger it used to bother me when me and a friend would grow apart but now I don’t let it get to me. We have a saying where I come from ’20 friends can’t be friends for 20 years’ and it’s true. But I’m glad for the ones that are still my friends now and the new friends I make both online and in person.
    Great post Kattie. I enjoyed reading ❤

    1. kattie

      24/02/2018 at 1:12 AM

      I really agree with that. Some friends stick around forever and some just come and go.
      Thank you very much! 🙂

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