Some certain family members and friends have told me that my standards are too high and I am just “looking for perfection”. Am I? This post explores the idea of having standards. Should one lower them if one can’t find a partner?
Now, a little bit about me:
I have never changed my relationship status on facebook and I have never referred to any man I’ve dated as my boyfriend.
Some people might ask:
“What’s wrong with you?”
My answer to that is that I haven’t met a man that I want to spend a long time, perhaps a life time, with. I haven’t met the man who makes my heart pound (as cliche as that sounds!) and I certainly have never met the man who I want to love.
Does such a man exist? Am I looking for perfection?
To those questions, I say yes and no.
Yes, a man who I want to love exists. And no, I am certainly not looking for perfection.
I don’t expect the man I meet to be perfect in every way – that’s ridiculous. I just want someone who is perfect for me, meaning someone I get on well with, someone who gets my sense of humour, someone who loves me and I him.
Having standards is so important, and standards should be constant when you are dating. I think it is a bad idea to lower your standards, just because you are lonely or want to be in a relationship.
“The difference between ‘must’ and ‘should’ is the life you want and the life you have.” -Tony Robbins
One of my questions was:
If you can’t find a boyfriend, should you lower your standards?
I don’t mean that these standards must only be set on ‘looks’ and the physical attractiveness of potential partners (however, there has to be sexual attraction). I find my standards are mostly about the personality and nature of my potential partner.
Do you need to have a long list of standards? No. I believe that while it is important to have standards, it is also just as important not to have too many.
For example, my list is:
- Well presented (hygiene, dress sense)
- Sense of humour (so, so important)
So, to my readers: What do you think of having standards? Would you lower them, or would you keep them where they are?
Is having standards a bad thing?
Tell me your thoughts!